Rachel Elder

I’m the therapist for couples who say, “We’re not in crisis…yet!” I help couples who are not falling apart, but can feel the distance growing–the tensions, the missed bids of connection, and are stuck in the “here we go again” fights that you just can’t seem to break. I love this work because I have seen what is possible when two people stop protecting themselves and start turning toward each other with compassion, accountability, and courage. That breakthrough moment–when they finally feel like teammates again–is why I show up for this work each day! The couples I work with often feel like: “We’re roommates, not partners!” The distance is growing, and they’re worried it may spiral out of control. They know there is real love here, but the closeness, playfulness, and vulnerability are missing. Career, kids, and stress are getting in the way of the intimacy they used to experience. They may wake up one day to find they have a successful career, but it came at the sacrifice of their marriage.