Alexandra Aguilar
LCSW
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Alexandra Aguilar, LCSW
Accepting new clients
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Licensed states
New York
At a glance
Services Provided
Individual Therapy
Ages Served
Adults (18+)
Young Adults (18-25)
Young Adults (18-25)
Languages Spoken
English
Faith Communities Served
Spiritual
Telehealth Availability:
Monday–Thursday: 11:00 AM–7:15 PM
About this provider
Clients I Work With
You learned to read the room before you learned to listen to yourself. Maybe you became your parents’ caretaker, the peacekeeper, or the child who never needed much. You learned to carry others’ emotions while your own went unnoticed. Now, you may struggle to set boundaries, trust others, accept care, or silence the inner critic telling you you’re never doing enough. You may be the person everyone relies on, yet privately feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or exhausted from holding it all together. I work with adults navigating childhood trauma, parentification, anxiety, depression, shame, and low self-worth. Together, we can explore the patterns that keep you putting yourself last, rebuild self-trust, and develop healthier, more fulfilling relationships with yourself and others. You don’t have to keep fighting the parts of yourself that learned to survive. Therapy can help you reconnect with who you are, honor your needs, and build relationships where you feel safe, supported, and valued.
Approach
My approach is compassionate, collaborative, and trauma-informed, integrating IFS, EMDR, and talk therapy to help you understand how your past shapes your present, relationships, and sense of self. Together, we’ll explore the roots of people-pleasing, hypervigilance, shame, perfectionism, and self-criticism with curiosity rather than judgment. Patterns that leave you feeling stuck or overwhelmed often developed to help you feel safe, loved, or worthy. Rather than silencing these parts, we’ll understand what they’ve been protecting you from and what they need now. Our work moves at your pace, honoring your experiences, boundaries, and readiness for change. My goal is to help you process unresolved pain, reconnect with your needs, and strengthen self-trust. Together, we’ll build toward healthier relationships, clearer boundaries, and emotional safety—so connection no longer requires self-abandonment, receiving care feels less unfamiliar, and being strong no longer means carrying everything alone.
More About My Practice
What if you could be loved without being useful, set boundaries without drowning in guilt, and receive care without feeling you owe something in return? My practice offers adults a space to step out of survival patterns and reconnect with who they are beyond the roles they learned to fill. Using IFS, EMDR, and talk therapy, I support clients navigating trauma, parentification, anxiety, depression, shame, and relationship challenges. You don’t need the perfect words or a clear plan for healing. We can begin with what feels heavy now and work toward greater self-trust, emotional balance, and relationships that make room for your needs. Together, we’ll explore the patterns that once helped you cope but may now leave you feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, or stuck. My goal is to help you build healthier relationships with yourself and others, so you can feel more secure, understood, and free to be yourself.
Specialties & approaches
Specialties
AnxietyAttachmentChronic Pain and IllnessDepressionGriefLife TransitionsMood DisordersRelationship IssuesSelf EsteemTrauma & PTSD
Therapy approaches
Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)Dialectical Behavior (DBT)EMDRInternal Family Systems (IFS)
Fees & insurance
Session Fees
$200
$275
Payment Accepted
Credit
Out of Network (Superbills Provided)
Sliding Scale
Insurance Notes
I am currently in-network with Aetna, BCBS, and Cigna, but my insurance-based caseload is full. I am welcoming out-of-pocket and out-of-network clients. Superbills are available for potential reimbursement, depending on your plan’s out-of-network benefits. If I am in-network with your insurance plan, I am unable to offer private-pay services at this time. I understand that therapy is an investment, and I offer sliding-scale options for eligible clients. Please feel free to reach out with any questions about fees or payment options.
Insurance Accepted
AetnaBlue Cross Blue Shield (BCBS)Cigna